Tolerance is you saying something crazy and me smiling and saying, 'That's nice.'- Penn Jillette
So I am very tolerant
I am willing to tolerate a lot of things, but this is one of the many things I cannot and would not stand for. Cancel on me last minute and I promise you, you will pay for it (adjusting halo), unless you jazz my life there's no way I will stand for such shenanigans. Having said all this, let me share with you amazing people my situation and frustration.
My friend has just come to town and surprised me with a phone call to say so, I expressed my excitement with continuous OMG's followed by uncontrollable giggles. All was well and good in the world and I couldn't be more happier because I never thought I would see this day, it was like a dream come true, the amount of times we talked about finally meeting up and how we imagined things would transpire, daydreaming through our various Skype calls and BBM chats, one step closer to finally putting a face to a name and a voice in flesh.Phone calls later we are making plans to meet up( and this was not an impromptu meeting) it was planned days before. Bowling and a meal to catch up properly was the deal. Come Friday morning, I won't lie I was H.A.P.P.Y like that Pharrell's song, we spoke in the morning, we were to meet up today. I carried on with my daily routine in life, nothing was going to crush this(except I was just about to be let down). Back and Forth with messages we spoke, giving directions on how to get to our meeting point, asking friend to let me know when he leaves his humble abode, all this up until 10:15am. Tick Tock goes the clock and it strikes 12:00pm, midday, getting ready to head out any time now, although not a single word heard from friend since 10:15am, surely he should have left his house since and should be in his very merry way.
Now my venting vessels have been emptied, let me return to my life in abundance.
I am willing to tolerate a lot of things, but this is one of the many things I cannot and would not stand for. Cancel on me last minute and I promise you, you will pay for it (adjusting halo), unless you jazz my life there's no way I will stand for such shenanigans. Having said all this, let me share with you amazing people my situation and frustration. My friend has just come to town and surprised me with a phone call to say so, I expressed my excitement with continuous OMG's followed by uncontrollable giggles. All was well and good in the world and I couldn't be more happier because I never thought I would see this day, it was like a dream come true, the amount of times we talked about finally meeting up and how we imagined things would transpire, daydreaming through our various Skype calls and BBM chats, one step closer to finally putting a face to a name and a voice in flesh.Phone calls later we are making plans to meet up( and this was not an impromptu meeting) it was planned days before. Bowling and a meal to catch up properly was the deal. Come Friday morning, I won't lie I was H.A.P.P.Y like that Pharrell's song, we spoke in the morning, we were to meet up today. I carried on with my daily routine in life, nothing was going to crush this(except I was just about to be let down). Back and Forth with messages we spoke, giving directions on how to get to our meeting point, asking friend to let me know when he leaves his humble abode, all this up until 10:15am. Tick Tock goes the clock and it strikes 12:00pm, midday, getting ready to head out any time now, although not a single word heard from friend since 10:15am, surely he should have left his house since and should be in his very merry way.
Now my venting vessels have been emptied, let me return to my life in abundance.
(or so I've been told)
I Just Don't Get It....
I am the type of person who keeps her word and follows through on my commitments to others(except I'm faced with a life or death situation/ emergency or a family member dies, neither of which has ever occurred THANK THE LORD!!!).
If and when I make plans with someone, I make sure to keep to them and even go the extra mile of getting there way early at times.Surprisingly, I don't have that "African/ Black Time" spirit in me, I'm Nigerian by the way and I'm not one to generalise but it is very well known how Africans or black people like to be late to everything, always trying to make an entrance!, well before I digress that's gist for another day...
Moving on, back to this "Last minute" syndrome, what I don't seem to gather is why individuals can never commit, WHY!, I mean surely it cannot be that hard keeping to a commitment, like my mother would say if it was an appointment made with Number 10 Downing street, preparations will be in order months before and the thought of cancelling will be out the window or even better yet buried 12 feet under. I do understand that sometimes there are circumstances that come about that require a cancellation of plans, but then do not leave it to the very last minute. I find that being very inconsiderate towards the other party who might have just cleared their schedule or even put other things on hold. It is wrong and down right negligent.
People in today's society are becoming more and more selfish without considering other's schedules and time, it doesn't seem to bother them to cancel at the very last minute. They just go on about their lives like it's normal.BUT! do you know what? It bothers me, it really does, when I am the one being cancelled on.
Being the person I am I refuse to call or text to find out what's going on, let it not be that I am forcing the situation( the awkwardness in me manifesting), let my pepper rest small. However,my gut feeling started to tell me that things were about to go downhill and I was not a happy bunny at all.*Message Alert* at 13:15pm, I began strolling to my phone thinking it must be friend. Lo and Behold it was indeed friend, and it was not good news, surely not what I wanted to hear. I was just CANCELLED on......
Like this is not on, friend texted saying "Cant come out today.... I'm really sorry, will call to explain okay". Err..... OK!, so I'm already dressed up and putting on my game-face(a.k.a Make-ups), am I just meant to accept that cancelling on me just like that is completely normal, the answer to that is NO! I must and will say that I am feeling every kind of way under the sun right now, and I don't even know what to reply to the text, in fact I'm not replying to the text because many things that should not be said will be said.
Having vented my vexation *exhale*, I will wait for friend to call and explain the reasons for this inconsiderate behaviour. I WILL WAIT! but friend should know there is Fire on the Mountain! (Asa style).
XOXO
Mena
